October • Parent Secrets

By Lauren Vonfeldt / Posted on 05 October 2014

Hi Parents!

This month, we are talking about “Patience”—waiting without complaining. This is a great Big Idea for all of us, especially living in such a fast-paced world.

Do you remember the ketchup commercial when we were kids—the one that played the Carly Simon song “Anticipation” as those two little kids waited for the ketchup to slowly make its way out of the Heinz ketchup bottle? It takes a while, but the ketchup eventually covers the hamburger, and at the end, the slogan “Worth the Wait” comes on the screen. That commercial just wouldn’t work anymore, as we’ve figured out faster ways to get that ketchup onto our burgers and hot dogs. And it’s a good thing, because none of us likes to wait.

I see this aversion to waiting played out with my girls on a regular basis. Recently, my oldest daughter got an iPod after saving her money from running a housesitting business over the summer. Once she got the iPod, she showed me her list of all the music and apps she wanted to purchase. There were a lot. And she wanted them all as soon as possible! It didn’t matter that I had already told her it was almost bedtime, or that other things needed to happen at that moment.

Our kids constantly ask us to give them things they want (usually in front of other people, which is so much fun!), including candy, ice cream, dinner, the movie that just came out, clothes, the freedom to stay home alone, iPod apps, and the list goes on and on. How do we get our kids to wait for these things without complaining?

Our memory verse for the month is from Ephesians 4:2, which says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” What I love about this verse is that it is talking about patience as a verb, an action that when put into practice communicates humility, gentleness, and love. Wouldn’t we all like our kids to be known by those attributes! We hope you will take the opportunity this month to help your kids understand that when they complain because they are not getting what they want, it usually comes at the cost of harming a relationship.

We want you to have fun playing the Patience Scratch-Off Game, but more importantly, we hope that practicing this Big Idea will help your kids take the focus from the things they want to the person they are interacting with. As Gordo learned in KidStuf, the person is more important than the project!

With that in mind, make sure to praise your kids whenever you catch them being patient. It’s not just about giving them a chance to spin the prize wheel. Your praise will reinforce their decision to choose patience—that it’s totally worth the wait!

Mike T.

Didn’t get to go to KidStuf? Make sure to visit kidstuf.com to watch the Replay!



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There are 2 Comments about this post

  1. Leh Meriwether says,

    Our son was sick last night and really upset that he missed this Kids Stuf. Is this going to be played online any time soon? He thinks he can’t go to Church because he missed it (we know that is not the case, he just feels like he is going to be behind)


    on 12 October 2014 / 11:46 AM

    • ParentStuf says,

      Hey Leh,
      So sorry to hear your son was sick! I hope he’s able to heal up soon! And to answer your question, yes, the KidStuf Replay for the month of October is available right now on the homepage at KidStuf.com. Thanks for asking and enjoy the show!


      on 14 October 2014 / 11:47 PM


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